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Truth is, if you homeschool, then you are intentional in your parenting.
It would sure be a lot easier to let the kids get on the magic golden bus
and disappear for eight hours each day. But you didn't choose that because
you didn't think it was best for your children. You prayed, weighed your
options, and decided that it would be better for your children if they learned
at home.
That's really what intentional parenting is: not doing what is easiest in the
moment, but doing what's best for your children's future. You've already got
the homeschooling thing down, so let's look at a couple of other areas to consider.
To make it easier, let's start in the future and work backwards. Imagine 30
years from now. Your children are grown and have families of their own. What
do you picture in your mind? Is your son sitting in front of the TV watching
sporting event after sporting event while his family members do their own thing?
If you don't want him to have that habit in the future, then you have to intentionally
create different habits now. Is that easy? Not if you're like me and were weaned
on the milk of network television. But intentional parenting says, I don't
care how hard it is now . . . I have my eye on the future.
How about another area? Looking into the future, do you see your daughter sitting
at her computer chatting away with friends she's never met while neglecting
her family's needs and her relationships with the real people who live in her
house? If you don't want that for her in the future, then you will need to
limit her texting/facebooking time now.
Would it be easier to just let your kids do what everyone else is doing? Yes,
but that is not intentional parenting. There are a hundred other areas which
you need to consider and take the high road.
But one more before I go . . . and it's for you, Dad. Imagine your grown son
working late into the evening to build his career while his children long for
their daddy to come home and his wife's heart has grown cold and empty.
My fellow dad, if you don't want that for your sons, then you must model
something different. Because if you work too much, your boys will work too
much. Intentional parenting ain't easy . . . but it is
worth it in the end.
Todd Wilson, "The Familyman," author of Lies Homeschooling
Moms Believe, Help! I'm Married to a Homeschooling Mom, and The
Official Book of Homeschooling Cartoons, is a dad, writer, conference
speaker, and former pastor. Todd's humor and gut-honest realness have made
him a favorite speaker at homeschool conventions across the country and a
guest on Focus on the Family. Todd and his wife Debbie homeschool
their eight children in northern Indiana when they're not traveling around
the country encouraging moms and dads. You can visit Familyman Ministries
at www.familymanweb.com .
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