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My husband, Robert, grew up on a farm in the 1950s. He attended
one of the last one-room schoolhouses in northern Illinois, and his days
were filled with the kind of adventures that happen to a little boy living
in a rural setting. Our children never tire of hearing "Daddy's" farm stories--like the
time an ornery boar held him prisoner in an apple tree or when he and his
faithful collie jumped ship just seconds before their sled smashed into the
fence at the bottom of the orchard hill. Tales like these send our kids reeling
with laughter, and to this day you can still hear Anna, our youngest, beg, "Please,
Daddy, tell us another story!"
I don't think I fully appreciated the uniqueness of Robert's childhood until
we moved to a farm in 1999. A series of life-changing events brought us back
home, within miles of where he grew up. Suddenly I found myself wanting to
preserve our family's "new" farm stories. Between the antics of the wildlife
and the escapades of our children, I realized the importance of journaling
your life stories as they happen.
Value Everyday Moments
Over the years I've learned that the values you place on everyday moments
will be "caught" by your children. When the back door slams and they start
rattling off their latest adventure, do you stop what you're doing to make
eye contact with them? Do you keep a journal nearby for writing down your
husband's funny remarks or your toddler's enthusiastic comments? Your whole
family will draw closer together as you write about your life experiences.
Whether you live on a farm or in the city, it is crucial to record your
life stories while they're fresh on your mind. Unlike my husband, who probably
remembers about 30 great stories from his childhood, our family now has hundreds
of farm experiences recorded in our journals.
Write from What You Know
Some of our most beloved American classics--stories like Rascal by
Sterling North or Where the Red Fern Grows by Wilson Rawls--were
written from the author's passionate love and firsthand knowledge of the
subject matter. What unique, one-of-a-kind stories are you living every day?
Last spring our family became surrogate parents to an abandoned baby raccoon.
We were privileged to befriend the clever little fellow we named "Coonikins," and
as we observed his shenanigans we became very attached and somewhat raccoon-like
ourselves, including voice trills and slippery hand movements. Comparing
notes with Sterling North's writings, we were convinced that our raccoon
was a lot naughtier than his.
Elizabeth, age 11, became his number-one mommy, feeding him daily and even
letting him sleep on her bed. Still, it was hard for her to remember what "people" foods
he liked the most. Thankfully, she kept a journal, and later, as we read
the entries, we were amazed to see how much she had already forgotten. A
children's picture book could be written about all the food that Coonikins
washed and consumed with those leathery little fingers.
Teach your children to journal in depth about the people, places, and things
that touch their hearts and not to take special moments for granted. That
unique, once-in- a-lifetime experience might not come again.
Recognize Your Children's Writing Strengths and Weaknesses
Some children don't like to write about themselves but love making up stories
instead. Remind them to value everyday moments and use them in developing
fictional plots. Show them how to create character sketches from people they
know and scenarios that mirror their life experiences. Once they realize
how much fun it is to mix their imaginations with reality, they won't be
able to go back to just making up stories in their heads. Their writing will
become more believable, too--after all, truth is stranger than fiction.
Once we settled into farm life, it didn't take me long to see a connection
between my husband's farm stories and the new ones the children were experiencing.
I encouraged our oldest daughter, Claire, to write a series of stories about
a fictional family, similar to ours, living during the Great Depression. The
Pebbly Brook Farm Series was born, and almost nothing we've published
brings me more joy--because I remember the real-life events that sparked Claire's
imagination and fueled her creativity. You, too, can use your personal experiences
to write authentic fiction from fact.
Take Dictation
If you have a child who struggles with spelling and grammar or physically
forming his letters, help him write his story down. Like his dad, Eric (16)
is a gifted storyteller, but he could never have preserved his early stories
by himself. He could tell a story with incredible detail, but getting it
on paper was another matter. Once I realized that he was an auditory learner,
I became his scribe for a season, helping him make the connection between
his oral storytelling abilities and his newly developing writing skills.
Writing instantly became a natural and enjoyable process for him.
Shortly after we discovered the joy of journaling together, he dictated
a highly creative entry to me. It was an incident that had happened earlier
that day when a vole jumped out of a hole and ran into the soybean field.
He titled his entry "The Big Blue Bite-y Thing," and with medieval imagery
and flowing, rhythmical language, his story was transformed from a normal
everyday occurrence to an extraordinary life event. Today Eric is a confident
writer who loves the writing process and loves encouraging other kids to
write, too. Visit his blog at www.homeschoolblogger.com/blogboy.
Preserve Family Stories
Try preserving family stories by inviting your children or spouse to write
separately about the same experience. As you compare entries, your individual
personalities and writing styles will become apparent. It's really fun to
see how differently family members view the same event, and you'll find that
more details are preserved than when you write an entry alone.
Work as a Team
One of the greatest encouragements I can give you is to team up with your
family to make writing a normal part of your everyday lives. When Mom and
Dad embrace writing, the children just naturally follow, and suddenly you've
got a whole family of writers.
Family writing is one the greatest joys we've experienced in our homeschool
journey and a gift we love to pass along. Journaling your life stories will
give your children a greater awareness of everyday moments and a new gratitude
for their family members, and that's something worth writing about!
Jill and Robert Novak have been married 28 years and are the grateful
parents of five children. Together their family has founded Remembrance
Press, publishers of The Pebbly Brook Farm Series, The Gift of Family
Writing, and The Girlhood Home Companion, a magazine and
keepsake treasure for girls ages 10-18. Visit their website at www.remembrancepress.com and
sign up for a free newsletter or visit Jill's blog at www.homeschoolblogger.com/jillnovak to
learn more about writing and drawing from life.
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